I know it has been five long months since I last posted, but I just had too much going on that I was just no longer able to keep up with everything. I had to drop some of the things I was doing as I just wouldn’t have been able to put proper time and effort into them, and I hate when people rush through things haphazardly.
As many of you know, we moved my father-in-law in with us back in November of 2011 so we could take care of him. Back then, he was scheduled for heart valve transplant surgery and we thought it best he be with us through it than on his own, way out in the country, over three hours away. While waiting on the operation, other problems popped up. First, he had a sever prostate problem that put him in the hospital and required a catheter for a couple of months and finally an operation. During that time, he had sever stomach pain which again caused us to rush him to the hospital. It was colon cancer and the tuor had closed his colon completely. They couldn’t operate due to his heart, so had to install an intestinal stent to keep him open.
There were a number of hospitalizations due to all this, and it was two hours travel, each way, and every day, for us. In August, he finally had the heart valve transplant, and then in November, he had the surgery to remove the tumor in his colon. Again, there were a number of hospital and Doctor visits, all a two hour drive each way for us.
We got him back home in December, but by this time he had lost over 50 pounds and was extremely weak. I became his full-time caretaker and just ended up dropping many other things I should have been doing. Family will always win. He never really got his strength back and I had to help him with most things, and it did take up most of my time. In April, he took a turn for the worst and we had to rush him back to the hospital. He was in there for a full month, with us traveling daily to see and support him. He was finally given a choice…an operation that would give him six more months of life, but with very little quality of life, or just to let things take their course and live a few more weeks on his terms. He took the second option and we moved him to a palliative care center. He passed away with the family around him a couple of weeks ago.
Since then, we have been dealing with closing up his affairs, and of course, being completely taken advantage of by the Funeral Home! They really screwed us and it costs us way too much money. But as we al know, most funeral homes could care less about the deceased or the family, they just ant the money!
So now I am getting back into this and plan to finally have some fun again! I haven’t done a single thing with anyone since my very last post of having fun with my T-Girl friends back in November. Me, a person who can barely go a week without playing just went six full months not doing a single thing. Well, that is about to change!!